The Three Choices Regarding Social Media

Uncategorized Nov 11, 2020

I feel like such a social media neophyte most days!  

I mean, I started on Facebook because that is how I stayed in touch with friends and family, and I'm on LinkedIn because I'm a professional. 

Then the lines got a little blurry and I now have a Facebook business page and I'm part of a good dozen Facebook Groups, mostly for professional reasons. 

Then there's YouTube, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Snapchat, and now TikTok. Plus probably others that I'm too old to even know about!

How can a girl keep up, if she doesn't want her life to be spent posting, reading, and responding to posts on various "channels"?

So my conclusion is that Social Media is a tool, and I am the craftsman.

If I don't want to be part of the Social Dilemma , I have to be part of the solution.

Which, by the way, if you haven't seen the documentary linked in the last paragraph, they go over how to be part of the solution at the very, very end.

In my mind, there's only three choices available to you, regardless of what channel you are on.  You can be the creator, the critic, or the cheerleader.

The Creator

Creating is the hardest because it costs you time, effort, and vulnerability.

But this is where you put out the most thoughtful part of yourself.  You interpret your world and put it out there in hopes that it helps someone interpret their world a little bit better, makes them a little bit more hope-filled, or just gives them an idea that might make their day a little brighter. 

A creator literally creates value in a world that is struggling right now.  Social media is a bit of a mess, what with the pandemic and the elections and the natural disasters.  Creators are the people who are helping other people get through this time, not add to the stress of this time. They are putting out videos, writing articles and connecting to others, just to keep the energy positive on the internet.

The Critic

Everybody knows who these people are!  They go around, usually with some extreme idea, and post it EVERYWHERE!

They say they just want to start a dialog, but usually they don't want a dialog, they just want others to believe them and tell them how smart and RIGHT they are. 

This type of content is the easiest to create and that could be why we see so much of it.  Criticism is the easiest because it doesn’t cost you time, effort, or vulnerability, but it’s also the most expensive. It costs you hope, happiness, and relationships.

I wonder how many of the "trolls" or "haters" ever stop to think about what they are putting out there is really costing them. 

If you bathe your brain in negativity, you are eventually going to reap what you sow. 

I bet I'm not the only one who has "unfriended" someone just because they are putting out too much negativity.


And that brings me to...

The Cheerleader

These are the folks who aren't putting out a lot of hope and happiness, but they are supporting those who are.

They go around liking posts that uplift, maybe even sharing them with their network.

They put out messages of support, so that The Creators know someone is out there listening and resonating with the message. 

They might not have anything to add, but they don't want to detract. And it can even be challenging to be the cheerleader sometimes, especially if you're jealous (yes, it happens that we become envious of our friends successes and triumphs!). But they push aside their envy to be happy for others. 

God Bless the The Cheerleaders! 

Anecdotally, I am happy to see A LOT more cheerleaders than critics!

We all have a choice when we are on social media.  We can be the creator, the critic, or the cheerleader.

Which one will you be?

Choose wisely.

Leaving you with this from the lighter side: 

 Me: I should do a three-day social media detox.

Also me: I should ask Twitter what they think of that idea.




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