Here in Michigan, we just retightened our pandemic restrictions again because our COVID cases are skyrocketing.
Can we have a moment just to let the magnitude of that moment sink in?
Granted we weren't exactly wide open yet, but we had SOME recreational activities we could do, such as have dinner with friends, go bowling or to the movies, are even hit a casino if we wanted to. Uh uh. Not anymore. It's back to our homes unless working from home is "impossible". But this week is Thanksgiving, and, although it may be celebrated differently than usual, it is a big holiday here in the US. And I do like me some holidays.
The truth is that I’ve always loved milestone days in the year because I am a total sucker for new beginnings. There’s nothing I love more than a fresh start and a chance to wipe the slate clean. I love having the chance to start over, to set new goals, and to get completely...
Celebrating Positive Things in Challenging Times
That is the title of a speech I'm giving to the local chapter of the Women in Defense next week.
We know 2020 has been extra challenging.
We've all lived it.
But in this month historically known for it's attitude of gratitude, it's time to turn the tide and celebrate what is RIGHT with the world.
And there is so much right.
No, it's not "normal" right. But it IS right. Right for right now. Right for a pandemic. Right to teach us grace and increase our creativity.
So let me start with something that I am thankful for specific to this year.
I am so, so thankful that my dog Reine came into my life.
Let me start by saying that I am a dog person. I love all sizes, colors, and breeds of dogs, and I have always had one. So when I lost my dog two years ago, I was devastated, but I knew I would get another one when I was ready.
The timing was never right. At first, my husband and I were empty nesters ...
I feel like such a social media neophyte most days!
I mean, I started on Facebook because that is how I stayed in touch with friends and family, and I'm on LinkedIn because I'm a professional.
Then the lines got a little blurry and I now have a Facebook business page and I'm part of a good dozen Facebook Groups, mostly for professional reasons.
Then there's YouTube, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Snapchat, and now TikTok. Plus probably others that I'm too old to even know about!
How can a girl keep up, if she doesn't want her life to be spent posting, reading, and responding to posts on various "channels"?
So my conclusion is that Social Media is a tool, and I am the craftsman.
If I don't want to be part of the Social Dilemma , I have to be part of the solution.
Which, by the way, if you haven't seen the documentary linked in the last paragraph, they go over how to be part of the solution at the very, very end.
In my mind, there's only three choices...
As I write this, we are six days away from the Presidential election in the United States. By the time you read this, the election will be over, but my guess is we won't have definitive results yet. My prediction is that it's like hanging chad all over again.
I can NOT wait for it to be over!
I cast my absentee ballot about a month ago, so anything I hear now that isn't a winner actually doesn't matter!
Whether I made good choices or bad choices - the die has been cast. And I choose not to waste any time or energy worrying about something I can not change at this point.
But what this has meant is that I am hugely annoyed by the ads on TV, the phone calls I get from "unknown" numbers, the texts, and the flyers that come fast and furious in the mail.
Basically, I have been in coping mode.
Sure, it's partially from the pandemic but it's mostly from this election season.
So, in my effort to move from coping to performing, I found these six habits from...
Have you noticed that the world we live in is growing ever more chaotic? Today’s digital information age is overwhelming our minds and sabotaging our productivity. We’re constantly interacting with our devices: being bombarded with noise, alarms, and the minutia of the day. It’s exhausting! With all that is coming at us, it’s hard to figure out which things matter, let alone focus on them!
I need to shut out that noise for a few minutes and focus on the things that make me WANT to get out of bed, even if it's cold and dark out there! I need something to anchor my daily activities to the people, ideas, and values I hold dear—without drifting into areas that waste my time and energy. After all, time is the most valuable currency I have. I'm going to use every second of it daily; why not ensure that I make those seconds meaningful? And I do that by simply using my paper planner.
Don't get me wrong, I still use...
Most of the time I am relentlessly optimistic. My inner wonder woman emerges when I start to feel beaten down, reminding me of my resilience and my ability to positively impact my little corner of the world. Typically, I find joy even when times are dark. Plus, I love to laugh.
But, Sunday, I woke up in a funk.
Call it pandemic blues.
Call it post-debate, pre-election anxiety.
Call it uncertainty-overload.
I don’t know about you, but when I am in a funk, I take it out on myself. My inner voice gets mean: I am not doing enough. I am not valuable enough. I am not a good enough friend or leader or ... whatever. I am letting people down. I am letting myself down.
Here’s the thing: I would never, ever in a million years talk to anyone else the way I talk to myself. I see the good in others, even when they are struggling. I believe in the importance of self-care and self-compassion, and I know it’s necessary to feel things deeply, even the bad...
If there’s one thing many people had to grapple with this year, it’s the idea of getting comfortable with discomfort. But even as we adapt to the continuously changing world, there’s an aspect of that discomfort that’s remained constant: The world isn’t totally “open for business,” and we can’t predict when it will be. And beyond this, there are many things—businesses and ways of doing business—that won’t ever return.
In many ways, it’s this persistent, low-grade discomfort that’s actually the most difficult to bear, because it’s so easily hidden and rarely discussed. It’s a quiet discomfort—not showy or on the surface like the radical shifts of the early pandemic days.
So how do you navigate that discomfort while still forging ahead toward your goals? By addressing it as the leader you are.
With no clear end to the pandemic in sight, we’re all buckling...
Too often leaders feel as if productivity and leadership cannot coexist.
They equate productivity with getting the job done or accomplishing the mission. It has to do with meeting deadlines, coming in under budget, delivering to the customer and managing all the tasks that come their way.
If they recognize that their job-to-get-done IS to lead the people, then leadership becomes another set of tasks to manage. Those tasks include things like getting to know the people, collaborating with them on decisions and helping them develop.
And to a large extent this is correct. All good ideas eventually break down into work, so knowing the traits of a good leader HAS to break down into tasks to be accomplished eventually.
Getting to know your people requires meetings to be set up or time carved in your calendar to walk around and chat. Collaborating with a team to make a decision requires a lot more time that just making the...
What if instead of envisioning politicians and CEOs as the ultimate models of leadership, we recognized the power within each of us?
Here’s the thing about leadership. It has nothing to do with fancy titles or positions of authority. Leadership is something we all can do, because it's about how we treat each other and how we show up. With each act we take and decision we make, we have the power to make a positive difference in the world around us.
Take Star Wars, for example. I remember watching it the first time and I was mesmerized from the start – family loyalty, alien beings, beloved robots, light sabers, the powerful and brilliant Princess Leia, good vs evil, the will to never give up.
All these years later, Star Wars continues to captivate people of all ages. Beyond the creative characters, groundbreaking special effects, and incessant marketing, Star Wars inspires us because, at its core, it is about a group of everyday people who become heroes by standing...
There is a general consensus that having a mentor is a good thing, even a critical thing, for a person as they move along in their career.
By the same token, it is encouraged that we, as leaders, mentor the next generation.
But what exactly does it mean to have a mentor or be a mentor?
Like most words in the English language, the definition of a mentor is as individual as the person who is seeking one.
My research into what people expect from a mentor indicates that there are four separate categories: sponsor, skill builder, motivator, and advisor.
The mentor as a sponsor has three distinct functions: increase visibility, foster networking opportunities, and operate as an information broker.
Typically, a mentor is in your organization (or in your same industry) but holds a higher ranking position than you do. Because of this, they have a different peer group and access to information that might not be available to you.
In one client's...